Over the last three years I have undergone many changes. It has not always been easy, but it has always been well worth it! There were bumps along the way and many triumphs. The changes I have experienced have given me the opportunity to put into practices some of the principles that help guide my coaching:
1. Outward change begins with inner change.
2. When you truly love yourself, you can love others.
3. Thoughts are powerful and shape how we experience the world.
I used to face situations believing that if others would change, if “they” would just do it a different way, I would be more happy and more successful. Through my journey, I have come to realize that the outer world is a reflection of my inner world. My disquietude with the people I interacted with was a reflection of the uneasiness I was feeling within myself. I had not yet become comfortable with my most authentic self and it showed up in my interactions with others. It showed up in the relationships I chose to be in. When I learned to love and appreciate myself, as my authentic self, the world started to change for the better.
In this journey to become my most authentic self, I have learned some valuable lessons:
1. Clarify your goal--it is difficult to move forward if you don’t know where you are headed. Visualize a version of the ideal that is open and flexible enough so that you can achieve even more than you were able to originally conceive.
2. Manageable Steps—you cannot scale the whole staircase with one step, no matter how amazing you are. Break your change into smaller, more manageable steps. Not only does this allow for success along the way; it also leaves room for redirection as you realize what is possible.
}3. Allow--once your goal is clarified, allow it to unfold. You can allow a choice to unfold by seeking information and staying open to what comes your way. Trust your intuition, your gut, to help guide you to which decisions are the best fit. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Know that a solution is on its way to you and be patient. Don’t over plan, over think, or try to make something happen. Trust and allow it to happen.
4. Grace—give yourself the grace to make mistakes. Growth comes from trying new things and making mistakes. If you stay with what you know--if you stay with what is safe—you will not achieve the changes you desire.
You do not have to go through the change process alone. Coaching is an excellent way to navigate through change in a safe and supportive way. I would be honored to coach you through your change.